Men experiencing abuse from a male partner

Domestic Violence and Abuse can happen in any relationship including those with someone of the same gender.  If you are in a relationship with another man and you sometimes feel scared then this is a sign that the relationship may be abusive.  Abuse can be violent or include sexual contact that you don't want or are not happy with.  Abuse can also be emotional and financial.  You do not have to be physically attacked to be in an abusive relationship.  Types of abuse may include:

• Hitting, punching, pinching, slapping - or any other type of physical abuse.
• Being forced or coerced into sexual activity you don't want or are not comfortable with.
• Threats, name-calling, putting you down all the time, criticising what you wear or how you look.
• Using your sexuality against you - threats to out, threats to tell Social Care, threats to tell your family or work you are gay or bisexual.
• Using your disabilities  or impairments against you - not giving you care that you need, witholding medication or giving you too much medication, hiding equipment you might need.
• Making you feel as though you aren't functioning very well.

These are just a few examples.  Any behaviour that you aren't comfortable with or that scares you can be abusive.

You can access many of the services available in Nottinghamshire (see the rest of this section for men), but you might also like to access the specialist domestic violence services for lesbian, gay and bisexual and transgender people that are available nationally.  Broken Rainbow provide a telephone helpline service run by lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people.

Broken Rainbow:

• 0300 999 LGBT (5428) or 08452 60 44 60
• Opening times:
• Monday (2pm-8pm), Wednesday (10am-1pm) and Thursday (2pm-8pm)

Support in Nottingham and Nottinghamshire: 

• MA-NN (Male Abuse North Nottinghamshire) Project - Male Domestic Violence Advocate supporting male survivors in North Nottinghamshire (Mansfield & Ashfield, Newark & Sherwood and Bassetlaw) 01623 683 633
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• Victim Support - Domestic Violence Support for male survivors in South Nottinghamshire (Nottingham City, Rushcliffe, Gedling and Broxtowe) 0845 4503899 (8am-8pm)
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• NHS The Health Shop (12 Broad Street, Nottingham, NG1 3AL) Provide support to LGBT people experiancing domestic violence/sexual assult and will advocate and support access to Domestic and Sexual Violence services within Nottingham.  Telephone: 0115 9475414 email: healthshop@nottinghamcity.nhs.uk

13/07/2009 Nottinghamshire Domestic Violence Forum